By Michelle Payton

As the holidays approach, many of us are feeling the weight of the current sociopolitical climate. With family gatherings coinciding with contentious election cycles, the dinner table can quickly become a source of tension instead of connection. If you’re feeling uneasy about navigating these dynamics, you’re not alone.

When the election ended, I found myself searching for podcasts, blogs, and any resources that could help me process this period of heightened stress—not just for my own peace of mind, but also to better guide my clients. Like many of you, I was looking for ways to navigate tough conversations, protect my emotional well-being, and foster meaningful connection during this challenging time.

Some may choose to skip family get-togethers entirely, a decision often criticized as avoidance but seen by others as a healthy form of boundary-setting. How do you feel about that idea? Does it resonate with you, or would you prefer finding a way to participate without compromising your peace? Here’s the truth: there is no one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with this kind of stress. What matters most is that you protect your mental well-being and seek out connections that make you feel loved and supported.

If you’re looking for ways to prepare for and make the most of this holiday season amidst sociopolitical stress, here are some tips to help you set boundaries, foster self-care, and create a more positive experience:

1. Set Boundaries Ahead of Time

Before stepping into any gathering, decide what is and isn’t up for discussion. If you anticipate certain topics leading to conflict, it’s okay to politely steer clear of them. You might say, “I’d rather not discuss politics today. Let’s focus on catching up and enjoying the meal together.”

What are some topics you could bring up to redirect the conversation if things get heated? It could be as simple as asking about someone’s favorite holiday tradition or sharing a funny story from the past year.

2. Know When to Walk Away

If conversations turn heated despite your efforts, give yourself permission to walk away. Excuse yourself to the kitchen, step outside for fresh air, or change the subject to something lighthearted.

How do you usually respond when tension rises in a conversation? Are there ways you can prepare to calmly disengage or diffuse the situation?

3. Create a Plan for Self-Care

Schedule time before or after gatherings to recharge. This might mean starting your day with a grounding activity like yoga or journaling, taking a walk after dinner, or planning a quiet evening at home. By prioritizing your emotional well-being, you’ll be better equipped to handle any challenges that come your way.

What are your favorite self-care rituals? Could you try incorporating one or two of them into your holiday plans this year?

4. Bring Your Support System

If you’re attending a gathering with people whose views clash with yours, consider bringing a close friend, partner, or relative who shares your values and can help diffuse tension. Having someone in your corner can make all the difference in feeling supported and safe.

Is there someone in your life you can lean on during this time? If not, think about ways to build a support system through friends, coworkers, or even online communities.

5. Consider Alternative Celebrations

If traditional gatherings feel too overwhelming this year, think about creating new traditions. Host a “Friendsgiving” with people whose company you enjoy or volunteer at a community organization to spread some holiday cheer in a way that feels meaningful to you.

What would your ideal holiday look like if you could plan it entirely on your terms? Take a moment to envision it—what stands out to you?

6. Practice Active Listening (If You Feel Up For It)

Sometimes, choosing to engage in a calm, respectful dialogue can help de-escalate tensions. Practice active listening, but don’t feel pressured to agree or debate. A simple “I see where you’re coming from, even if we don’t see things the same way” can keep things civil without compromising your values.

How do you feel about engaging in difficult conversations? Do you see it as an opportunity for connection, or does it feel draining? It’s okay to opt out if it feels like too much.

7. Give Yourself Grace

The holidays can be emotionally charged, especially during times of sociopolitical stress. Be kind to yourself if things don’t go perfectly. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, or even sad. Acknowledge your emotions and remind yourself that you’re doing your best.

What’s one thing you can let go of this holiday season to make things a little easier for yourself?

8. Focus on Gratitude

Amidst the challenges, try to find moments of gratitude. Whether it’s enjoying a favorite holiday dish, laughing at an old family story, or spending time with someone you love, cherish the small joys that the season brings.

What are you most grateful for right now? Even in stressful times, finding one thing to appreciate can shift your mindset and bring some peace.

The holidays should be a time of connection, warmth, and joy—but it’s also okay if they look a little different for you this year. Whether you choose to stay with tradition or create a new path, remember that protecting your peace is always a valid choice.