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Weekly State of the Union
A printable Weekly State of the Union, the Gottman ritual for a structured weekly conversation that keeps small concerns from turning into big ones.
Free to download and share with your therapist. Educational, not a substitute for therapy.
What's inside
- Appreciations to open on the right foot
- What's going well, and a household-logistics reset
- One concern raised gently, using a soft start-up
- A request that would help each partner feel loved that week
Who it's for
Couples who only talk about the relationship during a fight and want a calmer, regular place for it instead.
Inspired by the Gottman Method.
My Mental Climb adapts established therapy frameworks for educational use and is not affiliated with, endorsed by, or certified by their originators, including The Gottman Institute.
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FAQ
What is a Weekly State of the Union in couples work?
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It's a once-a-week, roughly hour-long conversation from the Gottman Method where partners share appreciations, review what's going well, handle logistics, and each raise one concern gently. Doing it on a schedule means issues get aired before they pile up.
How is it different from just talking?
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The structure is the point. Leading with appreciation, raising only one concern, and using a soft start-up keeps the conversation from sliding into the same escalating argument couples fall into when they raise things reactively.
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